Whether traveling or taking a trip to the local grocery store, one is bound to run into a child who feels life wasn’t being fair to them when their mom or dad decided not to let them have what they wanted. Their immediate reaction, without hesitation or regret, to scream at the top of their lungs followed up by a river of tears, sobbing, and whining.
Our human nature kicks in at an early age and never leaves. We may not throw fits or cry the tears when not getting our way today, but we do have to fight tears in other ways. Thankfully, when we’re young, the pains of life haven’t yet hit us. As we age, they come without prejudice to every one of us.
My generation was one where men weren’t supposed to cry. It made them appear less masculine (‘girly’ if you will). As I’ve grown older, that old stereotype has changed to the point today where it sometimes seems that men, younger men, in particular, cry more than most women. Go figure.
Not that there’s anything wrong with crying. In fact, it can refresh the soul and release the bottled-up emotions we’ve been holding onto. I’ve always been more sentimental than most men and, especially after a lack of sleep, find myself crying at movies or when I witness an act of love.
Tears aren’t always about the pain of course. Sometimes they’re tears of joy. Such as when we see a loved one who we haven’t seen for a long time or when we make a commitment of love to one another. I even cry when I see others acting out of selflessness at the store or on the street.
The Mrs will tell you she’s glad I can cry (and, believe me, she has seen me in some moments when the picket was wide open over the loss of my girls). That said, I’m sure she wouldn’t appreciate me carrying a hanky around and waving it in the air every time I see something ‘special’. Just saying…
If you’re wrestling with letting out the tears holding them back because of shame or from being told all your life that it’s not appropriate, I want to encourage you to find a private place and let them go. It’s Ok. God sees the tears and hears your heart. He wants to heal those wounds of the past and wash away the shame. He loves you unconditionally and will never reject you.
His love is forever and without exception. I guarantee, when you get those tears out, you will feel better and He will have a chance to come in and heal those wounds that you’ve kept hidden for so long…