For as long as I can remember, I’ve been a sensitive person. Looking back, I can see times when that sensitivity caused insecurity, self-consciousness, and sometimes, a little bit of paranoia. Being the one to pick up when others were angry, being judgmental, or the opposite when they were truly being kind, was something I thought everyone could feel. I later realized that it was, and is, something not all people have. In fact, some people are the exact opposite and railroad everyone around them.
It’s not that I want to be constantly sensitive to things around me. Far from it. It has caused me more moments of angst than I can count. As life has progressed and I’m now in my fifties, I’m able to understand those senses and see them for what they are. I no longer allow them to determine my emotional state. It’s now something that can be used to help make wise decisions, understand people who may not want to share their true emotions, and even sense when others living miles away are hurting about something (don’t ask).
Being sensitive to others is a trait often associated with the female gender. Men, typically, are the ones who are thought to be insensitive often consumed by their pride. Today, more than it was thirty or forty years ago, it’s the male who tends to be the ‘sensitive’ one. What has contributed to that is something for a sociologist to determine. Suffice to say, it’s no longer the ‘Man’s world’ we used to know; and that’s not necessarily a bad thing.
If that’s you and you’re one of those sensitive types, there are a few things you can do to manage those feelings to prevent them from overwhelming you. It’s not easy, but it is possible to control those feelings.
The first thing I would suggest is to realize that every emotion you sense isn’t necessarily reality. Our mind, and hearts, can play tricks on us in ways we won’t understand until it’s too late; if we let them.
The second is to ask yourself, ‘Is that emotion something I’m feeling as a result of my own fears, wants, or desires?’ Meaning, ask yourself if you are feeling something because of what you hope or fear to be real. Often, it’s something we fear more than reality.
Another is to think about the emotion you’re feeling when around another person as possibly something they are dealing with. The cold truth is that we all feel a vast array of emotions throughout the day. None of us are perfect. Even the most polished, confident person on the outside may be dealing with such things as depression, addiction, shame, and fear. They may have a poor self-image that they try to counter with perfectionism.
Finally, before assuming what you’re sensing is just you, take a moment and ask God if He may be trying to tell you something about another person. He may want you to pray for them or encourage them. He does that. A lot! He knows all our feelings, needs, and emotions and is likely to share some of those with others who have a heart of compassion. That sensitivity may just be something God can use to help bless others. I know He has in my life.
Take joy because it’s a special gift to have sensitivity. It’s not something to be ashamed of or to hide behind. It’s something to mature in and allow God to use to bless those around you. When you do, I guarantee you’ll be blessed, and so will others…